The Three Relationships: Focus on Self

Podcast
Schuchts, Khym, Malinoski

Explore inner conflict resolution with Bob Schuchts, Jake Khym, and Dr. Peter Malinoski. Discover self-healing through unblending, unburdening, and aligning with your innermost self.

Summary by:
Dr. Marcel Lanahan

Unveil the Mystery of Self with Bob Schuchts, Jake Khym, and Dr. Peter Malinoski

Key Insights

  • We all have different parts of ourselves that sometimes conflict, and these parts are not inherently bad or wrong.
  • These conflicting parts can obstruct our well-being and affect our connection with Christ, but loving and accepting our parts can lead to personal growth and spiritual alignment.
  • Healing the burdens these parts carry involves a two-step process: unblending and unburdening.
  • Engaging with experiential exercises can help establish a deeper connection with your parts, understanding their feelings and needs.
  • Some parts might have fear or a distorted image of Jesus. It's essential to navigate these fears using other spiritual figures or your innermost self.
  • Most people are blended with their parts. Unblending involves curiosity, compassion, and calm.
  • The innermost self is a conduit to God, not the soul or the savior. It is a bridge that helps align individual parts with the divine.
  • Screen guided imagery exercises and therapy approaches through the lens of Catholic anthropology...make adjustments if needed.

An Inner Conflict: Understanding Our Multifaceted Self

Have you ever felt an inner conflict, as if you're being pulled in different directions?

Maybe there's a part of you striving for health, but another part can't resist junk food.

Or perhaps one side of you brims with confidence while another grapples with insecurity. It's important to remember, these different parts aren't inherently bad or wrong. They're simply mechanisms designed to help you navigate life, providing protection from various pains. Yet, these parts can occasionally hamper our well-being.

Bob Schuchts and Jake Khym explore this concept in an enlightening episode of the Restore the Glory podcast, featuring a profound discussion with Dr. Peter Malinoski. They delve into understanding, loving, and accepting these various aspects of our personalities instead of suppressing them. According to them, each part, regardless of how it manifests, is driven by good intentions.

Bob, Jake, and Dr. Malinoski illuminate how to establish a relationship with these different parts from the perspective of your innermost self. This core, the essence of who you are, is your spiritual anchor, the place where you feel intrinsically connected to God, embodying your authentic values and purpose.

Healing the Burdens: A Step-by-Step Process

One of the primary objectives of this podcast episode is guiding you towards healing the burdens carried by these parts. These burdens represent beliefs, emotions, or sensations that parts acquire through traumatic or painful experiences. For instance, a part of you might bear the weight of shame, fear, anger, or sadness. These burdens can cause the parts to act in ways that don't align with your true self.

To alleviate your parts from these burdens, they recommend a two-step process: unblending and unburdening. Unblending implies disassociating yourself from your parts, enabling a clearer perspective and preventing being overwhelmed. Unburdening, on the other hand, involves helping your parts shed their burdens, by entrusting them to Christ, the divine healer who can relieve their pain and provide solace.

Visualization Exercise: A Tool for Unblending and Unburdening

Jake suggests a unique visualization exercise to aid unblending and unburdening. Envision yourself seated in a boardroom with Jesus and your different parts, gathered around a table. You are encouraged to place your innermost self beside Jesus, inviting your parts to join. Pay attention to each part's voice, understanding their needs, feelings, and beliefs about God. Notice any posters adorning the walls that might signify the beliefs or misconceptions your parts harbor.

With the assistance of Jesus and your innermost self, Bob suggests engaging each part in a conversation. Is it ready to relinquish its burden? If so, how would it like to proceed? Provide your part with compassion, gratitude, forgiveness, or any other emotion it requires to feel secure and cherished. Ask Jesus to lift the burden from your part, substituting it with a positive, healing sentiment.

Bob, Jake, and Dr. Malinoski also unravel some subtleties to enhance the healing journey. They discuss the fact that some parts might harbour fear or a distorted image of Jesus. Navigating these fears involves using other spiritual figures or relying on the innermost self to bridge the gap.

Most individuals, they note, are often blended with their parts. Unblending is an art that requires curiosity, compassion, and calm. It's an invitation to observe and understand without judgement or fear, to cultivate compassion towards oneself, and to maintain a sense of calm amidst the whirlwind of emotions and sensations.

The Innermost Self: A Bridge to God, Not the Destination

The trio emphasizes the importance of understanding the innermost self as a conduit to God, rather than equating it with the soul or savior. This innermost self is a bridge that aids in the alignment of the individual parts with the divine.

Catholic Anthropology: A Lens to Screen Approaches

Further, they talk about the importance of screening varied approaches through the lens of Catholic anthropology, making adjustments as necessary to align with the principles of Catholic faith.

Finally, they invite listeners to dive into some experiential exercises, enabling a more intimate connection with their parts. These exercises provide a platform to understand the needs and emotions of the parts. They encourage listeners to ask their parts how they feel, what they need, and to extend the same love and compassion that Christ would.

In essence, Bob, Jake, and Dr. Malinoski encourage listeners to love their parts as Christ loves them, pursuing a path of healing and wholeness. This journey, while not always easy, promises to be a rewarding process of personal and spiritual growth.